Sometimes we wake up full of self-doubt, uncertainty and confusion. On those mornings, it’s important to remind yourself of certain pivotal truths.
Everything will be alright – don’t worry so much
Anxiety is a modern day epidemic. An ever-increasing number of people see their GP’s due to anxiety and anxiety related health conditions. Anxiety is like being stuck on a hamster wheel – one anxious thought triggers the next and an endless churning rumination is activated. I’m here to remind you that everything will be alright. Worry is aimless, directionless. When you find yourself lurking in your own head for too long, push forth and take action.
Worrying about something that hasn’t happened makes you suffer twice
When we have trust and faith in ourselves and life, we understand that we can cope with whatever happens to us. When we worry about something that has not yet happened, we simply multiply the suffering. Acknowledge your fear and reassure yourself that should your worst fear come true, you will be able to cope.
Don’t compare, your journey is your own
We have all heard the phrase ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ and yet who can honestly say that they have never compared their appearance, finances or any other yardstick of success with others. In the age of social media, comparisons are even more common, bombarding us via our phones. Remember that you are on your own journey, you cannot compare the life you will build with the path that someone else is on.
You are enough
Marisa Peer believes that all problems stem from the fact that the majority of people do not believe they are enough. She heralds the virtue of writing ‘I am enough’ on your mirror or using it as your screensaver. Every time you have a second of self-doubt, remind yourself that you are enough just as you are in this moment, regardless of what you do or don’t have.
You are worth it
Have the self-respect to recognise that you are worth it. You are worthy of respect, love, care, happiness, joy and good things. You must believe this.
Sometimes when something goes wrong, we attach more meaning to it than is necessary which causes deeper suffering. There are things that genuinely do matter and things that don’t. If you find yourself fretting about something that is ultimately meaningless, say aloud ‘so what?’ and let it go.
Put it in the F it bin and move on
Again, sometimes we hold onto suffering for so long that it becomes part of our narrative. It fuses with who we are. The path through suffering is a struggle, a challenge that changes us and imbues us with qualities we may not have had before and working through suffering is a process which we cannot ignore. Sometimes though, when it comes to the smaller things, it’s better to bin it and move on. We don’t need to carry EVERYTHING with us.
Don’t be afraid to share your voice, needs, opinions, values and goals. You can be active not passive
Many of us are conditioned to sit back and let life happen to us. We wait for others to make us smile or laugh. We expect others to bring us happiness. Human relationships are undoubtedly enriching, but we also have to consider what we bring to others and to ourselves. Speak up for yourself. Share who you are. Be an active participant in your own life.
It only takes one day to change your life
Seriously. It only takes one day. One day to hand in your notice. One day to enrol on that course. One day to end that relationship. One day to meet someone new. Put your faith in one day at a time.
As long as you’re alive, there’s a chance
So often, we write ourselves off prematurely.
‘I’m too old, too young, too damaged, too stupid’
Always too much or too little of something!
If you’re alive, there’s a chance. Repeat. If you’re alive, there’s a chance.
Don’t give up on you
Even if others have given up on you, don’t give up on yourself. We have to be our own best friends and champion what is in our best interests.
Be your own best friend
Being your own best friend is not just about taking yourself out for a beer and some sushi, although that sounds amazing and I’d highly recommend doing that. It’s also about acknowledging what you truly need (more sleep, greater self-care) and what your goals in life are. Being able to be honest with yourself, as well as supportive of yourself is crucial.
5, 4, 3, 2, 1, GO!
Mel Robbins, my favourite self-help guru advocates saying 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 to beat procrastination, anxiety and any other debilitating emotions or thought process. People have used the rule all over the world to ask someone out, ask for a divorce or push forward in their life’s. It’s very straightforward and simple but effective if you use it consistently!
There is always someone in need of you
There is always someone who is in a worse situation than you, which means that even on your lowest days you can be a tremendous source of support, love and wisdom for someone else.
Remind yourself of these quotes as and when you need them. Even if you’ve started your day on a bad note, you can turn things around! 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, GO!
All my love